Grieving for a loved one?

 

 

 

 

Losing a loved one can be tough. Death is often not spoken about, particularly in western cultures. Death can feel very final with no opportunity for contact and a hole in your life where that person used to reside.

 

Feeling able to express what you are feeling or to talk about your loved one helps to reduce the burden of loss. Many want to talk about their loved one as it helps to fill the void in their life and in their heart. It helps to keep your loved one feeling close and not so remote. No-one wants to feel their loved one has been forgotten.

 

Talking aids recovering from the loss of a loved one.

 

Unexpectedly widowed in my 40s, I felt such an overwhelming and dreadful loneliness. Other people struggled to know what to say to me and would cross to the other side of the road in our village not to have to confront my grief. This made me feel doubly lonely. If only people knew, all I wanted was a hello and a hug. Missing physical contact and love from another adult was another big gap in my life made larger by peoples’ embarrassment.

 

Just Hello and a hug makes a big difference to a grieving person

 

When someone you love dies it can leave a big hole in your life. It can feel like life is no longer worth living. If there has been an illness and anticipation of death, you may have had the opportunity to say the important things you wanted to say such as how much you love each other or maybe forgiveness for a perceived wrong.

If, like me, the death was sudden and unexpected, you do not get the opportunity to say those important words. I believe that is why people say you should;

Live every day as if it is your last and do not to go to bed on an argument

In time I did go on to rebuild my life.

 

Now I lead a happy and fulfilling life and you can too.

 

I believe grieving is a process which we go through and each of us does it at our own pace. While you are grieving;

 

The key to surviving is being kind to yourself.

 

All of us experience grief at some point in our lives. When we experience it for the first time, it can come as quite a shock. It is often not talked about so it is hard to know how to deal with it.

I believe grieving is the process of saying goodbye. Through this process you experience many emotions – love, anger, sadness, loneliness, frustration and many more. Ultimately you learn to accept the situation. I found it helped to remember;

We are all connected whether we are in the physical world or in spirit.

Often you can feel your loved one’s presence or even receive a sign.